Everyone knows the Golden Rule of personal relationships: "Do unto others as you would have done unto you." While many people follow this principle in their dealings with people, this philosophy can turn off people who have different wants, needs and hopes than we do. Therefore the Golden Rule has to be replaced with the Platinum Rule: "Do unto others as they would like done unto them!" Dr. Tony Alessandra in Relationship Strategies: Using the Platinum Rule to Create Instant Rapport will show you how you can understand the way other people think and how you can break down barriers, resolve your conflicts and achieve your objectives.
As you start applying the Platinum Rule, you will see that your relationships with other people will become stronger and deeper. You will be able to understand better people around you, and you will realize how many different perspectives people can have on the same thing. By understanding and dealing with other people’s needs and wishes, you will be able to turn every encounter into a win-win situation.
You will learn how to read the behavioral cues of other people. For example, you will see what it means when someone doesn’t look in your eyes when he is speaking to you. Or you will be able to tell when someone feels uneasy in your presence, crosses his arms across his chest, or suddenly lowers his voice as he speaks to you. With this knowledge, you will be able to turn around embarrassing or awkward situations.
By going thorough this material, you will realize that people are very different, so there are no universal approaches that work with everyone. You have to learn how to get a grip on others’ wants and needs. You will gain a powerful insight into each person’s distinctive personality, so you can develop unique strategies for every person.
